Dating someone hiv aids
But anyways, I’ve grown to love and want a future with her. Can you please confirm whether you were referring to her CD4 count or her viral load. The aim of treatment is to get the viral load to undetectable (below 50 copies).
You mention in your question that your girlfriend’s count is low. If someone is on treatment, viral load tests also show how well the treatment is working.
How did you feel when that guy said he's "not ready for that complication"? I can see the logic of it, because you don't have to explain everything all the time, but it's not the way forward, because we don't need to segregate ourselves. I'm met HIV-positive people who say, "Why go for a negative person?
You have to wear condoms, condoms are vile." The thing about having HIV – you stumble across a lot of stupidity.
It can be an intense and exciting time, but it can also be difficult.
Being on treatment and having an undetectable viral load dramatically reduces the chance of your girlfriend passing HIV onto you.
She takes care of herself by taking her meds and eats right. CD4 and viral load tests are tests that are used to monitor the health of people living with HIV. If therefore you were referring to your girlfriend as having an undetectable viral load, then this is good. Are you referring to ARVs (antiretroviral treatment for HIV)?
I'm open about my HIV status, I'm quite a strong person, and I can deal with most crap people throw my way about it, so I'm trying to change attitudes a little bit. That just feeds the insecurity that comes with HIV. My doctor wants me to try meditation to stay on the right [psychological] track, because it's so easy to drown yourself in the negativity that's around. I was surprised at how much I didn't know about HIV. Have people said they were fine with you being positive and then it transpired that they weren't? I started dating someone last summer, someone I'd known for about four years.
I like to see where such attitudes stem from, because some people make flippant comments and don't realise what they're saying. I get some people who are simply extremely curious about it and will ask what it's like for me and how I'm doing. I was on the scene, and someone came up to me when I was talking to his friends in the smoking area, and he said to them, "Be careful what you're gonna catch off her," and then walked away. That [insecurity] is the biggest thing that changed when I became positive: the anxiety around not knowing who knows and what they think about it. I saw a story the other day from the Evening Standard and he [an HIV-positive man] was saying, "HIV isn't a problem, it's the attitudes around it." How did you react when you were diagnosed? He'd liked me all that time, and we started dating and he was always saying, "I'm here for you," but the moment it became a physical relationship? It was upsetting because we connected on so many levels and we got on, we had a really good foundation in friendship, and it was so sad because I knew how much he liked me.